Life Consulting involves Personal Life Coaching, Executive Coaching and Survival/Strategy Coaching
Professional Online Coaching and Consulting services provide Life Adjustment, Executive Development, Life Skills and Survival Training in a continuum of service. In each case there is a knowledge base that illustrates our perspective:
|About Life and Living|
|Notes on Executive Effectiveness|
|Glossary of Evolutionary Functioning|
Professional Life Coaching can help you clear the way for a stronger and better life.
About Life and Living
Whatever we know about living can help us to do better in our lives. The better the information, the better the results. Life itself is the ultimate teacher.
“The way to be healthy is to learn how to live.” Anonymous
“Human beings are, by nature, inclined to and capable of living in harmony with themselves, each other, and nature. If left alone, people have a natural tendency to live, to take care of themselves, to be healthy and happy, to learn to get along with each other, and to respect other forms of life.” C. Steiner
Emotional conflicts, past and present, trap our life energy, leaving us less than vital, competent, productive and satisfied.
Both body and mind can take on the symptoms of unresolved conflicts or stress. Thus we are either ill or live lesser lives than we could. In either case, we need to recognize our role in the process. There is a message in disease and malaise. We need to understand what it is.
Many emotions result from thoughts rather than experience and are ways of thinking rather than feeling. That is, we create them. Real feelings are related to events. They usually last as long as the experience.
Health is not merely the absence of illness and disease, but a way of life and involves most of what we do. On a deeper level, it means the mastery of the fundamental issues and events of life.
The psychosomatic model of life holds that there is a relationship between body and mind, individual and environment as the determining factor of our health and well-being.
Stress, with or without distress, depends on the values and beliefs we bring to our lives, especially our attitude towards survival.
It is important that we pay attention to our beliefs about survival – the way we approach making a living, maintaining a reputation, achieving goals, getting things done. Western society suggests a survival scenario where security is dependent on status enhancement and struggle against a hostile environment, evoking fantasies of scarcity and failure. That may cause stress. I. Oyle
Assuming total responsibility for our survival and finding a reasonable balance between the different aspects and activities of our existence sets up a solid foundation for a strong, satisfying life.
Marriage in the past was formed for the physical survival and well-being of two people and their offspring. Modern marriage is primarily based on the feelings of attraction and affection between the partners. This development has increased the vulnerability of marriage and family.
Marriage today requires a particular kind of adaptation: the development of the marriage as a physical and psychological union. There must be an extension of consciousness to enhance the biological facts of married life – money-making, household, sexuality and family – which by themselves are not enough to sustain the marriage.
Family is the workshop of nature. It is here where much of the archetypal scenario and activity of human life unfolds – between the genders and the generations. The events of the family are biologically and psychologically significant to all its members. It is here where our sense of belonging to life and time and nature originates.
The role of the parents is always twofold: On one level they are ordinary people handling the practical affairs of family life; on another level, they function as archetypal figures endowed with symbolic significance and the power to activate the innate psychology of the child.
The mother represents nature, permanence and eternity, the mystery of creation and life, the realm of feelings and instincts, in essence, the things that don’t change. The father is connected to society, history and change, the principle of rationality and achievement, and to the world as a place to be shaped by action and events.
“A winner is someone who succeeds in what he says he is going to do.” E. Berne
Professional Consultation can help you achieve success and satisfaction by getting things done.
Notes on Executive Effectiveness
Executive behavior is not limited to business and organizations; it is essential in all areas of life – career, work, family, school, community, public and personal life.
Leadership is foremost about envisioning the future and creating opportunities; converting intentions into reality; managing meaning and purpose; shaping culture and committing people to action; defining the task and getting results; and adapting the organization to a changing world. All these involve core competencies; all are learnable skills.
The leadership role has strategic, structural, cultural, relational, operational and adaptive aspects. The various facets of the leadership function correspond to the different aspects of organizational reality.
Leadership and organization are the two sides of a coin. Effective leadership is the pivotal force behind successful organizations. Leaders initiate the circumstances, the context and the confidence for success.
Leadership exists at all levels of the organization. Every manager is in a position of leadership, but not every manager is an effective leader. Managers ‘do things right’, leaders ‘do the right thing’. The difference is between operational ‘know-how’ and strategic ‘know-why’, between efficiency and effectiveness. P. Drucker
Management involves the tangible aspects of the organization – capital, technical skills, raw materials and technology. Leadership deals with the less visible side of the organization. Leaders are concerned with the whole picture, with the survival of the organization in the wider context of market forces and future opportunities. They engage the innovative and entrepreneurial potential of the organization and its people.
Management is essentially an operational function. Its objective is to get the job done. Leadership is, in essence, a strategic activity. Its purpose is to meet the challenge.
Leadership skill is the single most important factor of competitiveness and organizational success. Leadership is a process, not a person. This is why leadership behavior and effectiveness can be developed.
Organizations, like people, are living organisms composed of physical elements and organized for a certain purpose. Regardless of their physical equipment, organizations are not mere technical and economical entities; they have a human and spiritual dimension of values, ideas, aspirations and needs. Organizations are essentially made up of people.
Leadership is the primary catalyst for organizational performance – a focus of inspiration, innovation, cohesion, transformation and change.
People and ideas are the real assets of an organization. Leaders understand the interplay between human and organizational functioning. The solutions to most attitudinal and motivational problems in organizations are transactional in nature.
“Leadership can be felt throughout an organization.” W. Bennis
Typically, organizations take on the personality of the leader. Leadership requires the ability to master the executive task and to manage the personal impact on the organization.
“True leaders are not born, but made, and not made as much by others as by themselves.” W. Bennis
In addition to mastering the core competencies of executive functioning, effective leadership requires self-management. Ultimately, leadership is an expression of the self. Personal development is critical in becoming a leader. Personal growth and development involve such issues as psychological maturity, spiritual growth, holistic harmony of life, self-expression and self-deployment – elements that, in many ways, determine the corporate and organizational culture.
Professional Life Consulting can help you to be healthy, potent and resilient by knowing how to live.
Glossary of Evolutionary Functioning
Evolutionary intelligence is the stronger of the two psychologies we have. When evolutionary functioning is intact, people tend to live strong, healthy lives.
Like all living organisms and forms of life, we have an innate survival capacity. The human psyche contains the collective wisdom of our species, the basic bio-program enabling us to meet the essential demands of life. C. G. Jung
Both our body and our psyche are a product of evolution. The psyche was molded and shaped much the same way as were our physical features. As it turns out, the human psyche is the sum total of our collective survival experience as a species.
Our distant ancestors forged the brain we have today. Over two million years or 99% of human history went into its formation. It was then when our survival experience was founded and our basic anatomy, behavior and psychology were formed. The exposure to a harsh, unforgiving world in an unrelenting struggle for survival required effective responses to the environment. This is how we acquired our instincts – behaviors based on biology. They developed to secure protection and the gratification of basic needs.
Evolutionary adaptation has furnished the human psyche with the biological intelligence of life. Although mostly unconscious, our natural powers of survival are comparable to those of the animal. Evolution is the most rigorous test of reality. What passes that inspection can survive in the real world.
Nature has given us its own psychology. Seat of this psychology is the evolutionary psyche. This innate psychology provides two things: one, the survival behavior to satisfy our basic needs and, two, the mental ability to cope with the difficulties and tragedies of life. Jung called these bipolar structures of behavioral and mental adaptation the archetypes of the human psyche.
Survival is the ultimate mandate of the organism. At the very bottom, survival is an instinctual response. Whenever our life and survival are at stake, this ancient psychology goes to work. The evolution of the human psyche produced a psychology that enables self-reliance and self-sufficiency.
Ours is an evolution from biology to consciousness. Our innate survival psychology comes from the evolutionary intelligence of instinct and spirit – the two aspects of the archetypes.
Most people rely on their intellect to get them through life and depend on it for everything they do, think and feel. Survivors live life differently. Survivors rely foremost on the biological intelligence inherent in human nature. They keep the intellect on standby, limiting it to the interface with modern life. In the larger scheme of things, survivors live in a world of different dimensions. They place their life in the larger context of natural and cosmic realities. Their perspective on things keeps them close to biology and metaphysics – the ultimate frontiers of human survival.
Much of human life and behavior makes it clear “that we are innately territorial, inclined to mate for life, potentially co-operative with allies and hostile to foes, prone to congregate in hierarchically organized communities, and so on, much in the same way as many other mammalian and primate species”. A. Stevens
Society is the human version of the biological model found in nature. The organization of society is an extension of our biological behavior. Evolutionary conditions are the ultimate reality that determines and shapes the events of human life. As a survival environment, society has a definite biological quality, requiring evolutionary functioning to satisfy our needs. The world of society and culture is a world of our own making – forged by the intellect. It is an invented reality.
The frontier of survival has shifted from the wilderness of bush and savannah to the offices and factories of urban existence. The original hunter had to be smarter than the animal; the modern survivor needs to be smarter than society.
The animal that fails in the competition for food, shelter and mate demonstrates defeat by showing signs of deference and submission. It withdraws from the group to the periphery of life. This is the basis for depression.
People who survive successfully do several things well. Survivors succeed because they
take full advantage of their innate survival psychology, understand the world they live in, treat survival as a strategic undertaking, see their life as part of a larger process, and turn survival into a personal evolution.
The hero’s journey is the evolutionary journey. There are many ways to do this – the hero has ‘a thousand faces’.
For it to reveal its full depth, significance and beauty, life must be seen in its eternal aspect. L. Wittgenstein